Handling Rejection

Don't kid yourself, we've all been there and this sounds like good advice:

Handling Rejection


YOU DO NOT LOVE THE PERSON. YOU HATE THE REJECTION WHICH MAKES YOU THINK THAT YOU LOVE THE PERSON. IF THE RELATIONSHIP WAS SO GOOD WHY DO YOU FEEL SO BAD???

1. The person never cared about you in the same way you cared about them. It hurts to hear it. The truth is, you'll get over it.

2. Realize that this person, no matter how much you like him or her, is not going to reciprocate. You can't make a person love you. And you can drive yourself crazy trying.

3. You deserve a partner who respects you and cares about you. You want to feel secure and valuable, right? Remember this. Holding on to the person who rejected you keeps people who really care about you out of your life.

4. At first, you'll experience denial. "It's not really over," you tell yourself. Now tell yourself that it's not your fault. You could have been this or that - but you weren't. Don't dwell on your imagined shortcomings.

5. Don't try to get him or her back by making drastic improvements. It won't work. It's too late for that. You are fine the way you are anyway. If you do anything, do it for yourself. Now is the time to be selfish.

6. Go to your friends or family - those who accept you and will understand your hurt.

7.Take up a hobby or sport. Get your mind off your breakup. Stay busy - this is key.

8. You will get depressed. It's normal. You will get angry; this is normal too. IF this is a person who used you to get over someone else, understand that their rejection of you is based on nothing but the pain of their own rejection. Many times a person has rejected someone for another (usually a abusive person) only to think later, I let one get away.

9. Decide that you wanted it to be over. Convince yourself of this. Even if you contacted them.

10. You might try finding someone else - and some people will suggest this - but it's not very healthy and won't really be fair to the new person. Give yourself time to pull yourself together. Rejection works in cycles like this. You find a great new person get them to care about you, the one who rejected you comes back into the picture, you dump the new person, then you get rejected a 2nd, 3rd, 4th time by the person. Now you feel rejected and so does the new person. It is not fair.

11. Don't get obsessive. Obsession is not love. The perfection of the person exists in your head and not reality. If you feel that you can't get over it by yourself, get professional help. You don't want to turn into a stalker. If they don't return your calls or emails once don't try again.