Joan Didion on Grief

"Grief, when it comes, is nothing we expect it to be. Grief has no distance. Grief comes in waves, paroxysms, sudden apprehensions that weaken the knees and and blind the eyes and obliterate the dailiness of life."

She also found that it came with a particular kind of madness, the kind that made you believe that if you retraced your steps or acted in a very specific way, the past could be undone.